Ah.. 18, 18. Young, a bit more crazy and with interesting blonde and caramel streaks in my hair. Overall, I was pretty alright. I had just received an well above average score on my ENTER allowing me access into the uni course I wanted (psychology, for the record), I still lived at home, I hadn’t touched experimental drugs and had ambitions to become a clinical or educational psychologist after 6 years of study. All these elements are great, but there are definitely some tips I would tell myself, had I know what I know now.
- Accept what is happening now. It actually doesn’t matter if your best friend cancelled on you (again), nor does it matter if your uni assignment is due in three days and you haven't started. Everything actually will be ok. And the more you believe it, the more energy you have available to working out why it’s ok. So what if your plans change - rather than get upset about it, simply work out another solution or situation that makes you happy. By being accepting of your situation rather than complaining, stressing or resisting what is happening in your life, you allow the energy of life to flow - which creates a sense of tranquility, ease and enjoyment.
- The law of attraction is always in operation. Want a good life in the future? It’s got to be good now. I know, when you’re facing what seems to be the biggest problem of your life (statistics as a subject in uni for the non-mathematical students such as I), it seems impossible to be positive and pleased about what’s happening. But the universe pays attention - when you’re happy, you get more happiness coming your way. Sad? You’re opening yourself to a world of misery. Energy doesn't lie, and if you want good energy in your life in the future, you’ve got to embrace it now as well.
- Enjoy the journey - it’s more important than where you finish. Ambitious, determined and full of focus, as an 18 year old I put my career development and university studies as #1. Yes, it did pay off and I do have a degree, great career and comfortable living at the age of 26. But - did I enjoy it? Did I take the time to get to know people in my uni course, to explore love and relationships to their full capacity or to give myself time to simply be? Probably not. And, moving forward, I now know that these factors, rather than the former, are much more important in wellbeing, happiness and feeling content.
There you go Olivia. So before you get all worked up and stay indoors for the entire weekend doing your assessment, maybe go out and see your friends. Maybe even go on a date. Maybe appreciate that like everyone else, doing it the day before it’s due can be a good idea. Enjoy your time - you wont get it back.
PS - obviously sometimes I did let my hair down. As seen in the image below. And sometimes this involved me putting a lampshade on my head and pretending I was literally the lamp itself. Maybe I was a little more crazy than I remember....