Stress Management Fundamentals

Stress - probably the most widely spread, under treated condition globally. Studies show it's largely our perception of the problem, rather than the problem itself; which causes us to stress out. For this reason; I have developed a guide for you as it helps you adjust your perception, which if done effectively; will lessen your stress. Know that these are practices - as in, methods which you use daily. I use this for my sleep clients; however it is helpful for anyone - regardless of sleeping problems or not.

DO

-       Meditate daily in a structured manner – this means eyes closed, listening to a meditation track or your own breathing for a set period of time

-       Repeat your daily affirmations morning and night

-       Aim to be present in each situation: it allows you to respond to the environment with awareness, not by default.

-       Plan each day and week to minimize stress, only committing to valuable activities

-       Do a monthly evaluation of your time and pinpoint any activities which are causing you substantial stress; and look at how you can modify them, using the template below

-       Realise that you are not a machine which will function at 100% regardless or not if you take care of your emotional health

-       Reach out if you are not coping – doing so is a sign of strength, not weakness, and can -only serve to benefit you

-       Voice your concerns in an honest, open manner if you are being placed under overwhelming pressure on a regular basis from your work, partner, family or friends.

-       Find what works for you – you may prefer a yoga class, boxing or a swim in the ocean

-       Do a 'Mind Dump' each night – any thoughts or ideas that cause you stress, write them down and assess their truth, imagining you were telling this to another person.

DO NOT

-       Ignore signs of burn out or chronic stress, such as recurrent illness, constant fatigue, sleeping problems, emotional exhaustion, depression, anxiety, unproductivity and weight change

-       Feel guilty for saying no to additional requests or excessive demands

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Key Mindset Beliefs of Successful Bosses

After studying psychology, overcoming my own depression and creating a life I truly wanted (not the one that was given to me), I had to learn to be one thing: successful. How did I do this? I studied, research and investigated successful people around the world - business leaders to religious gurus; here are some of. the key beliefs that they held. All delivered to you in a nice neat package. Enjoy.... and more importantly; adopt them for yourself. I use this for my sleep clients, but if you are trying to attain a different goal; for example; weight loss; simply sub out 'sleep' and sub in 'weight loss'.

THE GUIDE

-       Being solutions focused is key. Ruminating on your inability to sleep properly does not lead you to sleeping properly. Being ‘solutions focused’ does – it means you concentrating your thought, mental activity and behaviour on exactly that: the solution; and further, what the solution will bring you – optimised emotional, physical, financial and social health.

-       Consistency between your written and spoken language is vital – alongside thinking about the solution and associated benefits in your own space; discuss it with significant others; in place of when you would discuss the problem.

-       Appreciating your capacity to change in the moment of ‘now’ is fundamental – the actions will be required to be executed on a daily basis, and the sooner you do them, the sooner you will enjoy the rewards of better sleep

-       Respecting there is no ‘better time’ to change – if you are currently struggling, the best thing you can do improve NOW. Any delay simply delays your progression

-       You know you need to change if your current sleep related behaviours are not permitting you to sleep optimally, alongside function at your best inside and out

-       Taking ownership over your behaviour, including their consequences, is essential. Negating responsibility for what you have or have not done is disempowering – and it removes your ability to create change. Rather, by admitting you have ownership over your actions; you have a greater capacity to enable positive change.

-       Adopting a ‘how’ mentality is crucial – for example; after identifying the key benefits to optimizing your sleep, you need to approach these results as 100% possible, simply a matter of learning ‘how’ to get there. The strategies in this program are the how – supported by science.

Need help sleeping? Sign up for my FREE 21 Days of Sleep Tips Series, highlighting a sample of the physiological, psychological and environmental changes you can make tonight to improve your energy levels, mood and concentration tomorrow. Or, email me at enquiries@oliviaarezzolo.com.au to find out more about my bespoke online program, The Sleep Solution, and how it can transform your sleep, and restore you to your best self - inside and out.

How to say NO to others: the Essential Guide to Overcoming Social Pressure

Ended up spending another Friday night boozing and regretting it the entire weekend? We've all been there - self included. Fortunately for you, I learnt how to overcome it - and so can you. Here are the fundamentals of saying no to others, focusing on your own path and essentially; seeing epic results. I use this for my sleep clients; so note that the examples are relative to sleep. However, if you are trying to attain a different goal; for example; weight loss; then everytime you read the word 'sleep' simply substitute it for 'weight loss'. Carve your own path and create the life you truly want! 

THE GUIDE TO SAYING NO.

-       First, realize you are responsible for your choices – including saying yes or no to social commitments presented, no one else. How much you will stay on track is relative to how focused you are upon the benefits of improving your sleep.

-       If you find you are consistently distracted from executing your behaviour as planned, you need to assess the benefits (if any) of the obstacles - e.g. the benefits of late night Netflix opposed to your sleep.. You need to be honest with yourself when you ask: is this compromise really worth it?

-       Despite common belief, most people do not expect you to be online until early hours of the morning, attend every social gathering or stay at each party until the last person has left. The most important aspect of any socialization is it’s quality: and this typically is not associated with the above; nor is it likely under conditions of extreme intoxication from alcohol or drugs

-       When considering your social group, the ones who encourage these new changes – therefore allowing you to sleep properly and become your best – are the ones who you want to keep. This is not necessarily reflective of how long they have been in your circle. It is important to appreciate the friendship for it’s potential to grow with you, rather than hold you back. If you feel held back, unconsciously you may sabotage the relationship simply because you feel it is restrictive.

- For this purpose, if you feel there are certain people in your life who limit your growth, ideally you are able to communicate your need to change and they will be alongside the journey. If not, t is best to gradually, and gently, distance yourself from them. This actually does them a favour; if they are with you; you both win simultaneously. If they are not; they will see you improve and be inspired, and when they are ready for similar growth, they will have a trusted individual they can look to you for advice. It does both of you a disservice to hold on to friendships which are constrictive.

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The Sleep Solution Sleep Quality Index

Here is a helpful tool I've created for sleep deprived individuals like yourself so you can see tangible change aeach week in your sleep and related functionality.

Feel free to share this with anyone who needs to improve their sleep - statistics show tracking our goals correlates with a greater likelihood of us achieving them. Click the link so you have a downloadable, modifiable version which you can use each week.

Olivia x 

Downloadable Sleep Quality Index 

Need help sleeping? Sign up for my FREE 21 Days of Sleep Tips Series, highlighting a sample of the physiological, psychological and environmental changes you can make tonight to improve your energy levels, mood and concentration tomorrow. Or, email me at enquiries@oliviaarezzolo.com.au to find out more about my bespoke online program, The Sleep Solution, and how it can transform your sleep, and restore you to your best self - inside and out.

How to Break Old Habits - Your Mindset Guide

Included in my 21 Day Sleep Tip Series, this is super helpful in the process of change and helping you break old, unhelpful habits. Enjoy! 

-       Mentally detach from what you ‘do’ and ‘do not do’ and being open to new patterns – letting go of old habits allows you to have space for new ones – which evidently is what you need!

-       Although you feel you may have ‘always’ done something, unless innate, there was a ‘day one’ for it. Equally, there can a ‘day one’ for these behaviours – today even!

-       The key to maintaining these new habits is to stay focused of what sleep provides you - aka the benefits – remember the visualization of rejuvenating sleep? Keep that close. It will keep you motivated.

-       Be sure to mentally map out how these new activities logistically work. Where will you do them? What time? Are you alone? Psychologically preparing is critical – it allows you to have an understanding about what to do, if you’re doing it for the first time.

-       Disregard any objections or resistance – statements like ‘I’ve tried that before’ or ‘this doesn’t work for me’ only impede your success. Although this is true, you haven’t tried them NOW with MY program and MY support. Hence, it’s similar, but not the same. 

-       Be solutions focused – if difficulties arise, concentrate your energy on solving the problem, rather than ruminating on the problem itself. This takes practice, my friend!  
 

-       Results from the new habits, that is, improved sleep, comes through consistent action over time. The only way to change is for YOU to change. Further, the opposite, inaction, results in no change.

-       You have been able to adopt new patterns throughout your life – for example, learning a new job or skill at school. This provides you evidence of your ability to change.

-       The habits suggested are supported by academic research into sleep optimisation.

Need help sleeping? Sign up for my FREE 21 Days of Sleep Tips Series, highlighting a sample of the physiological, psychological and environmental changes you can make tonight to improve your energy levels, mood and concentration tomorrow. Or, email me at enquiries@oliviaarezzolo.com.au to find out more about my bespoke online program, The Sleep Solution, and how it can transform your sleep, and restore you to your best self - inside and out.

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